I saw the movie Working Girl when I was about thirteen; probably a little age inappropriate, but I loved it. Come on, Harrison Ford, Alec Baldwin, Joan Cusack, a great song by Carly Simon - what's not to love? The line above really stuck in my head. I believed at the time that I'd grow up to have an amazing body - tall, thin, ready for the catwalk.
Well folks, teen dreams rarely come true. I'm neither tall or thin, but I do have an amazing body. This body of mine has carried and delivered two healthy babies. I can climb hills. I can ride a bike. I can jump rope. I can bend over backwards. I can touch my toes. I can do several cartwheels in a row. I can lift a forty something pound, sleepy boy out of a bunk bed and carry him to his favorite chair. I can stand in the kitchen for hours on end cleaning and cooking. I can scrub the floor on my hands and knees. With my two hands I can knit, crochet, sew, embroider, write, type, knead bread. I have an amazing body; I just can't seem to find clothes that agree.
I am suffering from an all too common problem: a closet full of clothes and nothing to wear. So I went shopping, dragging Avery along with me. We went to five different stores, in and out of three different dressing rooms. She was the perfect cheerleader - "Mom, that looks so good! You should buy it!" But the full length mirrors disagreed. I wanted to cry. I wanted to curse my body and every ill fitting piece of clothing I tried on. For Avery's sake, I kept my mouth shut and my eyes dry.
Do I have body image issues? You betcha. Will my daughter have body image issues? Most likely. She's an American girl who has seen countless images of models and superstars on magazine covers, commercials, TV shows and movies. The last thing she needs is a mom who cries in the dressing room over jeans that are too tight or too low, shirts made of paper thin cotton which reveal every roll and bump, necklines that plunge way too far south, blouses that have no hope of buttoning up.
My size, shape and style are somewhere between the junior section and the misses department. I am a thirty something year old tween. I have no idea what size I really wear and which brands fit best. Four hours of shopping the other day and I only bought three undergarments and one pair of black yoga pants.
I am wonderfully made - but the clothes these days are not. I think I might just move into my new pants. They seem to agree with me, as long as I don't look in the mirror.
And now I'm going to go eat a homemade cinnamon raisin bagel with cream cheese while I sing along to this song and dance around the kitchen in my black yoga pants.
Your post just shouted (screamed) out at me. I am having the same issues, when did my body change SO much and how did I not notice?? I need custom made clothes! Nothing seems to fit me like they did before.
ReplyDeleteI also wrote something similar to this on my blog a while back, even though my body is nothing like it was 10 years ago, it is so much more powerful and capable and how can I criticise that?
Yea, Molly! And a thousand more yeas! You're talking to (figuratively) someone with several girls and a couple of years on you, and I'm here to say "more power to us". I'm not fat, but NOTHING fits. My girls are beautiful, but they will probably spend years trying to look different. No matter how much I kiss them and tell them they're perfect. No matter how much they look at me and see a grown up at home in her own skin.
ReplyDeleteI don't know what to do: maybe the best we can do is put on our yoga pants, pull our girls on our laps, and tell them we love them.
Yea, Molly! Best wishes, tt
ugh. I have a closet full of clothes that I just need to get rid of because they don't fit my body anymore. I wear the same 4 outfits over and over again. I feel so good about what my body can do. Just not about how clothes fit it.
ReplyDeleteAnd I think yours looks great.
Oh! Amen, sister.
ReplyDeleteLast years, Year of Pie has made this one the "Year of Oh My Lord I Have Rolls on My ROLLS!"
Bluh.
How come I FEEL like a Misses, but I LOOK like a Woman?
Honey, let me tell you that the problem is NOT you or your body. It is the clothes. Well, really, its not the clothes either. My guess is that you are shopping in the wrong stores, or the wrong sections.
ReplyDeleteI'm a petite 28 year old, and I recently realized that I do not fit in a size small at forever 21, or even a medium sometimes. The same is true at some other stores I shopped at all through my early 20s. Its not that I'm bigger, but things are shaped differently after having a baby.
You may have to spend more money than you used to. I'm coming to the difficult realization that expensive jeans really fit me better and are really worth the investment to have me feel good in them. Plus I'd rather have 2-3 pair of jeans I like than 5-10 pairs that each have things about them that I sort of don't like.
Maybe try Gap, Banana Republic, Ann Taylor, and some sections of Macy's, etc.
Just be patient and keep your chin up! You look beautiful.
Wow, I totally understand what you mean!! My body is amazing, it get things
ReplyDeleteI have to go get some nicer work clothes and I'm just dreading the trip to the store.
This was wonderfull! You so perfectly articulated exactly what I feel every time I look in the mirror. It seems unfair to work so hard to love yourself and your body after seeing all the skinny-super-gorgeous models and actresses, only to have the clothing available not do the body you have been gifted with justice.
ReplyDeleteI think so many (if not all) women can relate to this! One thing that annoys me as well - I wear different sizes at different stores! Can't clothing sizes be uniform?
ReplyDeleteWhatever. I'm a six foot tall supermodel and I never have to watch what I eat..all women envy me and men fall at my feet, and not because that is now where my chest is.
ReplyDeleteNo. Of course not. My chest is closer to the middlish..but it's almost to my feet.
Also. All clothes fit me, especially the ones that look perfect on the clothes rack but somehow make normal portioned women look like potato sacks.
Or not.
I have been thinking I need to get out and go shopping too. I think I have completely lost my sense of style since becoming a Mom. Mostly I have no idea where to even shop. It all feels a tad overwhelming. I love how you have focused on how amazing our bodies are. They really truly are. Now if we could just figure out where to get clothes that would make us feel like Divas that would be great!
ReplyDeleteI'd like to hug you. What a post!
ReplyDeletePhew! So glad to know I'm in good company as I stare into my closet blankly... this is the hardest time of year for my relationship with my body. I'm inside baking or sewing all of the time. Not a good combination for keeping my wardrobe feeling "comfortable". Yoga pants are pretty fantastic, though. What's wrong with a pair for everyday of the week? Love your honesty, Molly. It's as beautiful as your perfect body!
ReplyDeleteI just recently found your blog and am really enjoying it. Wanted to comment along with the others that this really is an amazing post--what perspective! And thanks for reminding me how great a song 'Let the River Run' is! For the first time today, I'm all smiles after listening to it!
ReplyDeleteI love your post! I love how you embrace what so many of us feel! The frustration of being a woman of body in the world is so hard to come out the otherside still confident and happy...and why can't clothes just be our friend. But what our bodies do do is what is important and what we do accomplish thank you for that!!!!
ReplyDeleteGreat post, Molly. Thanks for reminding us all what we have. Too many times the focus is on what we don't. Glad that you are so mindful around your daughter.
ReplyDeleteahh and well put! I think it hits us all especially after the holiday season...with our sweet tooth drooling and our diet pops in hand we scream out loud!!! "I have nothing to wear"...and then we hold our breath and step onto the dreaded scale...and all that comes out is a silent cry and a even quieter clearing of the throat {{ahem}} when did this happen?...how did this happen??? But by the grace of God we go on...and move forward...It's ok to be in-between it's all part of the journey.
ReplyDeleteblessings to you, dear friend, as you walk through the journey...and may your daughter see the peace in the process :o)
~simply stork~
You must just be shopping at the wrong stores. Clearly you have a beautiful amazing strong body and you just need to shop at the beautiful amazing strong women clothing stores. Sadly, there aren't enough of them.
ReplyDeleteWell, Molly, I will tell you that I AM tall and thin, actually thinner than I'd like to be, and I have the same problem as you. I think women of all shapes and sizes struggle mightily to find clothes that actually make them feel beautiful. And I had the same experience as you last weekend, being in a dressing room with my 5 y.o. daughter, who thought that every single dress I tried looked beautiful on me, and couldn't understand why I left the store emptyhanded. I almost bought one just to humor her, with the intention of returning it later on the sly!
ReplyDeleteI love your lines about all the wonderful things your body has done. Yes, you are wonderfully made!
Great post!
ReplyDeleteHow 'bout the self-drafted skirt?
If we ever make it up there...
Why do clothes fit so bad, it can't be us, right? Right? I think you look just fine.
ReplyDeleteThank you for praising your body and its abilities - I second that motion. Dressing rooms are fraught with land mines. I won't even go in them anymore. Don't be shocked if I show up naked next week. (Joke, it was a joke! I will be wearing - you guessed it - yoga pants...)
ReplyDeleteha! you nailed it. as i sit here, waiting for the weight watcher site to load the meeting times for me, i open another explore window to visit you ;) hand in hand they are going. keeping healthy thoughts flowing through my mind...my mantra this year is to be comfortable in my skin, remember how good my body is for so many of the same reason you state. love you!
ReplyDeleteand ps.
ReplyDeletethose heather grey and orange stripes are looking good ;)
amen to the amazing bodies of mommies!!
ReplyDeleteAnd a bagel and cream cheese is worth dancing and singing in yoga pants! especially homemade bagels and gourmet cream cheese.
Your body is perfect! Really perfect.
ReplyDeleteToday I looked at mine in the mirror and thought ah well ... I'm nearly 40 and have had three kids and a full-time job to boot. This body of mine will never be in ads (unless it's for Dove Soap) but it is lovely nonetheless. Then I drank some wine and thought about exercise. ;o)
Great post! I've been giving this a lot of thought recently and your words gave voice to my pondering.
ReplyDeleteI have a one year old daughter and as she grows, I want her to love the skin she's in. How do we instill this in our little girls when the media focuses so much on one body type. I think you're on the right track in setting a good example when you shop. I hope my little girl learns from me that we really are fearfully and wonderfully made. Inside and out. Clothes can be a form of expression, but really, they are just wrapping paper. Which would work well when we want to rip them off of our post-partum bodies :)
Thanks for sharing!
You have a cute butt.
ReplyDeleteAnd I love your banner!
ReplyDeleteThe kids and I were at a store the other day, (tween store, mind you) and a girl walked in wearing 5 inch heals, painted on jeans, super tight VERY low cut cotton shirt, lots of jangly belts and jewelry, LOADS of make-up, and Amy Winehouse hair. She could not have been more than 16 years old.
ReplyDeleteLily (7) just stared. I discreetly poked her in the arm and told her to stop, and she said, " But Mom, she's so BEAUTIFUL." To which I replied, "She is not. She looks like a tramp, and if I EVER catch you dressing like that I'll beat you."
Probably not the best reaction, but I panicked.
p.s. It's not us. It's the clothes.
ReplyDeletemolly, that is a great post. We all have similar issues- one book helped me with clothing, at least- I found it on amazon for a song and it helped me find clothes for my figure type (no hips, no waist, think 12 y/o boy)- the pocket stylist. I don't even look at clothes that would flatter other figure types anymore, just what works for mine.
ReplyDeleteI think you're a lovely woman!
xo
I used to LOVE that movie. Well, probably still do, I just haven't seen it in awhile. I used to watch it over and over on Beta. haha Ahh, Harrison Ford.
ReplyDeleteI have the same issues with alot of clothes and body image. I know I've got a fine body, but so many clothes do not want to fit it. There's one style of jean that fits me, Gap long and lean, and if they stop making it, I'm screwed. And quite often, when I DO find something that fits the way I want it to, after 2 or 3 washings, it's all out of whack. What a waste of time and money, eh? I love the style of those teen stores, but they just don't fit me.
Can I let you in on a secret?
ReplyDeleteI've been Plus Sized most of my adult life, and especially since having our 2 children. Not never once have I cried about my body or the indignations of clothes shopping. It's life. Our 15 yo daughter will never be skinny or petite, but she has the most spectacular self image! She doesn't try to cram herself into something tiny. She understands that her glorious curves are part of her Female Family Legacy. And she'll happily scour the racks at GoodWill to find the best bargain without thinking about it.
Perhaps the best thing about being in your fourties? You don't give a fig about what Hollywood thinks, and fleece "active wear" is your friend. Hahahahaha!
Amen!
ReplyDeleteI watch enough "what not to wear" to know that any body, no matter size can look good, the trick is learning how to dress. That ain't so easy! I've spent the past few years trying to embrace my body the way it is, rolls and all because chances are, these rolls aren't going anywhere any time soon.
The other day Lily asked me if I liked my body. I gave her an answer pretty close to yours, about how amazing it is and what it can do/has done.
Thank god for yoga pants, I wear them daily :) I'm sure Stacy and Clinton would frown upon that, but I don't care!!
this made me cry a litte, maybe my favorite post EVER!! You look beautiful by the way.
ReplyDeleteGREAT POST! And timely for me as after 10 years of being a stay at home mom I'm entering the work force again- what a shock to go clothes shopping and see what's out there for us 30 somethings. So far I've spent two whole afternoons shopping and have come home with only two pairs of pants!
ReplyDeleteHi Molly-
ReplyDeleteI love what you've written here from the perspective of "Mom." I love that you are so aware of how your feelings and actions impact your daughter and I love that you know that your body, thin or not, is indeed amazing.
I'm currently writing a book, due out in 2010, I'd like to talk to you about reprinting a piece of this blog post and possibly getting another quote. Are you open to it? Please contact me through http://tinyurl.com/c9853v
Thanks,
Dr. Robyn
Seriously. When I am home with my husband and kids I never feel more beautiful. As I prepare to go out and look for a new job, one of my biggest fears is not what I can do and what I can offer but what I will wear. Thanks for the post.
ReplyDeleteGreat post! Having kiddos changes our bodies for the better! I need to clear my closet too and make way for clothing that fits better, but it feels like I have given up hope if I do it!
ReplyDeleteHappy Wednesday! Karen
Wow....it's as though you plucked that post from inside my brain. I have had the very same admiration for my body and what it can do (carry 2 pregnancies within 19 months starting at 38 yrs!)and the same dismay at not finding well fitiing COMFORTABLE clothes. I've watched all those makeover shows and they always put women in trendy clothes that to me don't seem very practical (and ugly too - I'm SO old). My body looks like yours and SO many moms around me; strong, healthy, with the weight re-distributed in places the fashion designers chose to ignore. We need a talented designer who is familiar with the post delivery form to launch a line of clothes for REAL women. Comfortable, practical, stylish, affordable, and readily available.... Lila Tueller has some cute skirts and a beautiful dress on her blog that she made for herself. Oh how I wish she would put some up for sale...
ReplyDeleteI love this post.
ReplyDeleteI really love your list of all your wonderful body can do.
I really, REALLY love the kickin' song/video at the end!
What a wonderful community of readers you have!
ReplyDeleteI started crying when shopping about 4th grade and haven't stopped since. Well, until I discovered this service:
At Nordstrom they have a personal shopping service that is FREE!! It is called Personal Touch. You call and make an appointment. Your 'shopper' calls you finds out what you're looking for, etc. When you go in she has a selection of things for you to try on . . .this allows her to see your body in clothes, gage your style and your wallet. Then you just go from there.
It is AMAZING. First of all these shoppers 'shop' at every dept. at Nordstrom. They have knowledge of all the stock. Once they get the hang of your style and body, it is a piece of cake. Seriously. They know what looks good on your figure, they know how the clothes run (big, small, short) and they can put together an outfit. They also will have everything altered for you.
I know Nordstrom can be expensive, but honestly it is worth every last penny. I will never shop for clothes again. Never. I despise each and every part of it.
I don't work at Nordstrom. I just feel like I have to tell as many people as possible about this service because it has removed a huge obstacle for me.
Sorry to be one of those annoying solution people. The body image stuff is terribly hard.
This was a courageous post. All the best to you.
you are too cute molly. wonderful post. well written. :)
ReplyDeleteI think yoga pants are very stylish :) go you.
ReplyDeleteDear Molly~
ReplyDeleteI celebrate you and the lovely body God gave you! Good for you for celebrating each and every inch of it and what it allows you to do and be!
You were so courageous to share such honest feelings! You'll probably never know how many other women could copy this exact post and put it on their own blogs.
Just last night I was having the "I have no style", "I don't know what to wear", "I can't find anything I like in the stores" kind of talk with my husband. At the same time, I received an email from Missus Smarty Pants.
http://www.missussmartypants.com/
Are you familiar with the FlyLady? Missus Smarty is one of her featured guests. She offers a service to help us figure out our shapes, what clothing flatters our shapes, and how to put it all together. Check out her website!
You're right... you are wonderfully made! God doesn't make anything else!
I am 36 and I can't find anything to wear!!!! Maddening, isn't it?! I don't want to look twenty-something and I don't want to look forty-something, either. Sometimes I think, oh well, clothes don't matter, it's what's inside! But who doesn't want to look cute once in a while? Thanks for sharing your feelings!! I feel ya sister!!!
ReplyDeleteI like to look at classical paintings. They show me how I really look, like a woman. Happily, I wear a uniform for work and jeans (Levis) and tshirts the rest of the time, so I bypass the shopping altogether. I don't know what I'd do if I had to dress for work.
ReplyDeleteYou really DO have a great body!
ReplyDeleteI think I am one of those people who doesn't really worry about my body too much, I sometimes wish my bust was a little smaller to make bra shopping more fun, and easier but then I think "oh well!" and it's all fine! I do have issues with my skin as I have to take medication which can effect it sometimes, it's not always nice having spots when teen years behind you! Thank goodness for make up!
speachless, this is the best post I have read all week, ney all year... thoughtful, full of honesty and love and I think even contentment... I am guessing your the same age as me as I too watched this movie about 13 yrs old and loved loved loved it... I believe in the ethos of a strong women yet vunerable is a good thing...
ReplyDeleteThank you for this post. I've struggled with body image issues over the years and recently ran into a girlfriend dealing with severe anorexia. It makes me so sad that we as women let society have this affect on us and how we feel about our bodies. Confidence is so important.s
ReplyDeleteThis is exactly where i am right now! Thank you for this post! i came home today after trying to look "put-together" and put on my yoga pants...why do they fit so well, but nothing else does? Urg. I too love my imperfect, amazing body but why can't the clothing companies embrace us and our poochy bellies and build us up instead of making us feel like crap? Women and girls unite, yoga pants for all! :)
ReplyDeleteI relate completely so I started sewing my own basics. I love myself in aline skirts, but couldn't find any I loved, so bought the Amy Butler pattern (although you don't really need a pattern) and made half a dozen. I am a bit unpredictable, I find a look I like and wear it to death. I'm not particularly stylish, but I'm not the worst. It can get a little soul destroying at times. I'm older than you, 40 this year, and feel I have to acknowledge that I'm entering that anonymous woman period - where no-one notices you anymore!!
ReplyDeleteyour body IS a masterpiece. and it looks great!
ReplyDeletethose stinkin retailers just aren't selling anything for anyone but skinny teens. it really isn't fair.
love. love. love this post.
That second paragraph of yours was beautiful - love it. Onto the rest of the post - I have these thoughts regularly! What is up with the clothes that are available? Ergh.
ReplyDeleteYea for you loving your body! And you nailed it our bodies are really amazing when we learn to appreciate and love them. But oh the shopping nightmare! I will put that off for.ever. when possible. Cause frankly whoever is designing women's clothing, well, they don't know what the h*ll they are doing! And Soon Then is right - maybe we all need a shot at being on "What Not to Wear".
ReplyDeleteAmen!!
ReplyDeleteYou crack me up...as I sit in my grey yoga pants.
ReplyDeleteJust blame it on the men, don't you know they design the clothes!!!! If women did the designing all the clothes would fit right and make us look fabulous. I've decided that my sewing machine is my best friend.
ReplyDeleteWe are truly and wonderfully made!!
hi - I have the same issues. Try Talbots 12W pants - these are cut generously and you can't go wrong with a simple black knit pair - on sale now. Mona
ReplyDeleteI LOVE this post! I feel much the same way ;) I'm bad about finding something i like then buying it in every color. Then i wear the same outfit everyday, just a different shade....i know - that is no help at all...
ReplyDeleteIt's tough to be a 30-something tween....I know :)
And the manufacturers wonder why we do not buy there clothes. They are so ugly and ill fitting. I am 57 years old and weigh 136 lbs. Not fat but it is discouraging that you have to purchase an XL sweater for it to fit and please, I cannot even dare to go into The Limited or Express. If we quit buying all of this garbage maybe someone will notice
ReplyDeletelove this post!
ReplyDeleteand yes, you are most definitely wonderfully made!
i feel your pain, molly. (we actually look like we have an extremely similar build). i despise shopping, unless it is for shoes. and i really need clothes right now (said the woman still wearing maternity pants after delivering 4 months ago). i just am not emotionally ready.
ReplyDeletenot long ago i was looking at some old photos from when i was in high school. i was pretty athletic and had an average build. i started crying when i thought of how hard i was on myself back then for not having the body i wanted. i looked great! and would love to have that body back. it's so sad.
i don't want those feelings for my own daughter but i know it's inevitable. i even try to watch what i say about myself in front of henry.
this was a great post and a great perspective. it obviously struck a chord!
**can you literally bend over backwards?**
you know, i still remember siskel & ebert reviewing that movie and talking about how "brave" melanie griffith was to do the scene where she vacuums in her underwear -- because she was "overweight". um .. what now? melanie had curves, but she was not fat! i think they missed the point of the "bod for sin" comment entirely.
ReplyDeleteMolly, I love this post, you said what I am trying to learn to love about my body. As I am getting older I feel my body rebelling, and now I am trying to hear its complaints and treat it with the respect I've failed to accord it in my youth. After all if everything goes well, this body and I will be together for a very long time.
ReplyDeletei can relate to your feelings about body image. i go back and forth too. i found a great skirt that always seems to be right, it might work for you too. it's patagonia's morning glory skirt. it's like yoga pants in skirt form! i'm not very tall, so i cut off some of the length but since the fabric is a knit, i didn't have to re-hem! it wears & washes like a dream. over the years i've accumulated 3!
ReplyDeleteyou are the cutest thing, ever.
ReplyDeletei don't know who clothes are made for, but they're not made for me. i so get you! go eat that yummy bagel. save one for me.
ReplyDeletegreat post.
xox.
I feel exactly the same way!
ReplyDeleteThe jeans nowadays are so low cut, that I have a bellyroll that hangs over them. I do not want to wear the high-waisted "mom" jeans, so I spend most of my time in sweatpants. I am in no way heavy, but my body never went back to "normal" after having my 2 boys. I just saw a bikini in J. Crew that I've decided I must wear this summer. There is no way I will be able to do that,, unless I begin a strict workout routine. I just wouldn't feel comfortable. Do you ever see those pictures taken of celebrities on the beach?
They usually wear whatever they feel like, even if they don't look good in it. Why can't I do that?!
Same story here! I've got three girls, 2 teens, so I try to keep my woes to myself, but sometimes I just want to scream. I thought I was the only one who was between depts, sizes, fits, length, etc. I've actually managed to make yoga pants go from casual sporty mom to elegant w/heels! The clothing industry needs to catch a clue! It seems like they're just trying to make us feel bad, so we shop more, and try even more styles...hmmm.
ReplyDeleteEverything you said is so true, and it's so heartening to see all the commenters who feel the same way. Two years ago, I went on my "quest for jeans." That took me to about six stores, I tried on over twenty pairs of jeans...and I walked out of each store wondering why nobody made clothes for women who have given birth!
ReplyDeleteThe clothing "problem" is tougher in winter--can't really wear a skirt when there's snow on the ground, but for summer, I'm sticking largely with skirts and dresses. And I'm sewing them instead of slogging through the stores.
I just went through this all again last night after my first shopping trip since baby #3 was born. Ugh and of course I had all three of my girls in the dressing room as I moaned through the whole ordeal. I see from the other 70+ commentsa, I'm REALLY not alone. Thanks for voicing it!
ReplyDeleteIt would appear that we are in the same boat! You wrote so well what goes on in my head when I try to buy clothes. The lights are unflattering, mirrors showing every little dimple or roll, etc. I am a 42 yr old tween who is caught between a teen 7 and an adult 6-8. One 6 fits, another does not. What is up?? It's not like I am barbie or anything. *sighs deeply*
ReplyDeletethank you for voicing my often felt frustration. =)
Well said sister.
ReplyDeleteI am totally with you here.
ReplyDeleteAnd I cry for our girls generation, so tied up in bodyfitting instead of body-mind-spirit happiness!
Thanks for writing this.
I am on the same wavelength as you today. I was just thinking about Working Girl, I saw it at about the same age and loved it, and still do! And as for the bod., I'm there too. I was just going to order some fabric to sew up some summer skirts (I live in the south)
ReplyDeletethanks for looking on the bright side of things!
i have been introduced to your blog via a link to your covered rock...after reading this post i am adding you to my blog roll ...I cant wait to see what other inspiration you have to give!
ReplyDeleteI found this article after looking at the crocheted rock project (which I'll be attempting soon.)
ReplyDeleteI loved this post. We are fearfully and wonderfully made. My husband was hugging me yesterday and put his head in my lap and said, "Our family started right here and I just love that." Wow, it gave me a keen perspective on what my priorities should be and how hard I've been on myself lately. Stay healthy, yes, but go overboard, NO!
Maybe my body shape isn't what I've wanted but maybe I am what I should be. Novel thought!
Thanks for a wonderful post and a great reminder.
Thank you for the post! I struggle with what two pregnancies have done to my body daily. The mall is a menace, and I don't want to dress like a teenager or a grandmom. Irg. thanks for sharing your frustration and your encouragement. That Carly Simon song is a favorite of mine too, by the way. I gave you props and a link on my blog: http://jackamo-thebestintentions.blogspot.com
ReplyDeleteOh! Yes!!!
ReplyDeleteI struggle with body image issues, too, even though most people I know say that they don't think I'd be the "type" of woman who would. But we all do, I think. Thank you for reminding me of how wonderful my body really is. (I mean, I just gave birth, so I'm pretty happy with the work it can do. But still. I sure don't look like those thin women that the world tells me I should.)
Well, I know you've already read 80 other women's posts... but this could have been my blog post... if I were honest enough to lay it all out there. I seriously think of myself as looking completely different than I do when I actually look in a mirror. I like wearing t-shirts and jeans, and if they're cute, that's just a bonus. I rarely wear anything 'stylish' because they just don't make things that look good on me. Lately, I've had some luck with nicer v-neck t's from Target, but I have yet to find some great pants... Or anything 'dressy' or 'work' worthy. (Luckily, for now, I'm a SAHM) THAT is likely to change soon, so I guess I better find something quickly.
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